Dating advice

How to check whether a woman on a dating website is real

Never rely on a website’s verification process alone. A woman might have lent her ID to someone else so they could pass verification.

Check if her profile picture exists online

Use Yandex Images, Google Images, or TinEye to run a reverse image search on her profile picture. Check whether it has appeared on another website. I consider finding the same picture elsewhere a major red flag.

Check for inconsistencies in her profile

Look for details that do not add up. For example, she may describe herself as tall but appear short in her pictures. Some profile fields may be empty, or her stated country of residence may conflict with her description.

Ask her for a selfie

Ask her to send a selfie while making a specific hand gesture. One woman told me she couldn’t do this because she had lost her usual phone and the replacement was too old. To me, that explanation was a HUGE red flag!

I have also encountered women who passed a website’s verification process but refused or failed to send me a selfie.

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Written from personal experience and perspective. Consider your own circumstances when making relationship decisions.