The media and the movies portrayed mothers as being always good to their sons. It is just not true and I want to talk about toxic mothers.
Male bashing: Few people realize that toxic mothers behave similarly to toxic wives or girlfriends. They put down their son. However, the impact is terrible on a boy’s mind, as a young man is much more fragile than a mature man. For example, my mother once told me, “No normal woman would want to be with you; only widows would be an option for you.”
Humiliation: Some boys are humiliated by their mother. For instance, a mother might consistently point out her son’s flaws, comparing him unfavorably to his peers or siblings. She might dismiss his accomplishments, making him feel that they’re never good enough. Another example could be a mother who constantly undermines her son’s abilities. For instance, she might say things like, “You’ll never be as good at math as your sister,” or “Why can’t you be more like your cousin?” These comparisons can make the boy feel inadequate and unappreciated.
Criticism: There are those boys who are criticized by their mother all the time. For example, those mothers will be control-freak and will not accept their son to have a different lifestyle than they wanted. For no reason, a mother can tell her son that he is not doing well, that he is not looking good, that there are better people than him. Those types of sentences are destructive for a young boy.
Control-freak: This is when a mom pushes her lifestyle onto her son(s). He’s expected to follow her rules, and if he doesn’t, she’ll make sure he toes the line. For instance, we’ve heard a mom tell her son, “As long as you’re living under my roof, you’ll live by my rules.
Physical assault: Every now and then, a mother might resort to screaming at her son, or even worse, hitting and slapping him. She exploits the power she holds over him. However, most of the time, a toxic mother doesn’t need to lay a hand on her son to cause damage. More often than not, she uses her words as weapons to tear him down.
Conclusion:
When a man has endured psychological attacks from his mother, he’s left deeply wounded. In such cases, it’s best for him to distance himself from his mom to safeguard his own well-being, rather than trying to argue with her. Once he’s away from her, he can begin the journey of healing and restoring his mental health, but it’s important to note that this process can take years.